Throughout mankind’s history, men being driven to protect and provide for women lived through danger, risk, urgency and sacrifice. All this driven by the high levels of testosterone men have in their bodies and such activities created massive amounts of dopamine…ah yes!… men’s favorite feel good drug.
This kind of life style allowed women the space for children, having the time to raise them, support other women, participate in the community and feeling connected, Feeling connected and “part of” created massive amounts of oxytocin,,,ah! and there it is….women’s favorite feel good drug.
This created a system where men where happy to work hard and even do crappy jobs to provide for their family,
Imagine the life of a miner for instance, dirty, stifling, dangerous work for a paycheck. In exchange at the end of a long day, the wife would cook and provide a comfortable home for him to rest and raise his family. This made hard work worth it. There was also a huge amount of pride in this for men and they felt respected by their women and community for their efforts.
In today’s world where the women are providing for themselves, this formula falls short. Both men and women are feeling the impact. Women run around trying to be super woman and do it all, only to often feel overwhelmed, under appreciated and drained.
Ugh! Nothing lovely or good comes from a drained woman. Men are overlooked for their efforts and often minimized, emasculated and right down disrespected for who they are.
This created a new reality where men, not being respected for their efforts, stop doing what they were willing to do and sacrifice for. Women now, experience men as being un-supportive, shallow and self centered. Wonder how this happened??? Can you see it?
Now women, this is for you,
Men who aren’t needed will walk away from you. Men need to be needed. Men suffer from depression when they don’t feel needed. It’s in his DNA. It is primal and it is nature.
Women need to feel safe…but how will you ever feel safe if you refuse or deny men’s help and allow yourselves to be vulnerable. (Scary, I know, especially when you are raised to be tough)
When and if you allow a man’s support and care, when and if you allow a man to DO for you, you will effortlessly slip into your femininity, which men LOVE and cherish. You will feel the tension of being a super woman fade a little. You will have more space for generosity and love for the ones near you and YES! Men will step up, YES! men will provide and protect you and YES! men will make you feel seen and safe. A safe woman has access to love and all good things are possible from there.
This idea may seem old fashion and obsolete but nature knows best. Going along with your chemistry will always feel better to your body and to your heart. Going against it will leave you feeling worn out and disconnected from yourself and your spirit.
Over giving women burn out, under giving men are needy and selfish.
Nature wants men to be giving and women to be receiving. Right down to our bodies. (just look down)
It’s how it’s design and it’s what worked for millennia.
This won’t change anytime soon even with all the education and evolution we believe raise us above all this…Nope! The default system still overrides the downloads and new apps.
Hope this makes you think.