The thing that women need to realize when searching for a masculine man is that in order for him to want to protect you and cherish you for life, he must EARN your love. That’s how it occurs in his head. A good man will know that he is YOURS because he EARNED your love and respect, and your trust and affection. That makes YOU the valuable woman he will want to take care of. This is one MAJOR way men respond to women.
Men looking for long term relationships ultimately are attracted to VIRTUE…not VAGINAS. I know it sounds old fashioned but I didn’t make this up. If you give him “love” (sex) before he “earned it” you often will kill his momentum towards wanting to PROVIDE, PROTECT and CHERISH you. Yes, quick sex usually stunts his emotional investment in you at that moment. In other words, sex will have him show up with his penis before his mind and stop him from connecting with his heart to go further emotionally. If you’ve been with a man for years and he has no desire to marry you, guess what may be going on. It doesn’t mean that he doesn’t care for you, but he may just be hanging out until he finds a woman who values herself more and he will be willing to earn her love. Ouch! This will leave you with a guy who loves to roll around naked…and doesn’t have to do anything for you because he never had a chance to truly WANT TO, emotionally. Get it? Same guy with two different results because you slept with him too quickly.
The modern woman has been conned into thinking that sex will get him close to you and then he’ll fall for you…. but it doesn’t happen that way for most men. Author Tracie Mc Millan says it best: “ It’s like working a temp job hoping you’ll get hired full time because you’re so valuable. Hum No!…you’re a temp!” Your need for intimacy may be the killer pill.…can you see it?
Boys, not Men, will love you for the easy, quick, free sex, but these guys will never truly take care of you. They just won’t and they don’t want to. Think back, look over your history with men. Can you spot them? They get what they want without working for it and/or having to earn your love. They hang out for a while…then disappear. Boys do not want the responsibility of your happiness. A good man will. (You should read that phrase again) Worst of all, when it goes down the toilet, you often feel used, resentful, and angry and you’ll blame him. This situation is created without knowing what you triggered with the quick sex in the first place. Sex after the third or fourth date is too fast to build something on. (unless sex is all you want, then go for it)…He got lucky. That’s what he’ll tell his friends. Quick sex will get his attention and he’ll stick around for more… because Hell, you’re easy!! Unfortunately it will usually not get you his affection. Not long term. You’re a temp!
How feminism has everyone losing.
Study explains why college women abandon courtship for hook-ups
This study is from the Institute for American Values. by Elizabeth Marquardt..
A new study into American college girls shows that most young women today have bought into the feminist belief that women should be as free sexually as men are. So they go to parties, get drunk so that they can have casual sex with some guy. They will say “oh my gosh, I was so drunk, I hooked up with so and so…” Perhaps not surprisingly, many noted that being drunk helped to loosen one’s inhibitions and make it easier to hook up. A number of students noted that being drunk could later serve as her excuse for the hook up.
A sophomore at Howard University said that “I am kind of learning from a lot of the mistakes that I have made.” At a further extreme, some women saw their future marriage as the reason to experiment widely in the present. A Rutgers University student said,“I think hooking up with different people and seeing what you like and don’t like is a good idea. Because eventually you’re going to have to… marry someone and I’d just like to know that I experienced everything.”
Although it is admirable to take risks and learn from one’s mistakes, these women would probably find it difficult to explain how having your heart broken a few or even many times in your early years — or trying to separate sex from feeling, as in hooking up — is good preparation for a trusting and happy marriage later on.
I think worst of all, what these young women miss is that each time they have casual sex or hook up …a small part of them, a piece of their heart, goes away with that guy. I want to make this clear…Ladies, when you have sex, a piece of your heart goes away with that guy when he leaves. Stay with that for a moment… So eventually in the name of freedom and easy sex, women, who bought into this, end up feeling empty, used up, betrayed and cannot trust or be vulnerable anymore. Worst of all… they cannot fall in love. Wow !!! Thank you feminists type 2 for screwing it all up for everyone (READ ARTICLE HERE:
Virtue may be old fashioned, but a good man, a man of character, looks for it. He will always hope for sex, and that’s why he’s on a date with you in the first place. But if you hold back, he will have a chance to get his heart involved and see you as a woman who has boundaries and respect for herself. He will see you as a woman who can resist his charms and efforts to woo you out of your clothes. THAT is attractive to a man looking for a long term relationship. A virtuous woman is safe for him to build a future with, spend his energy, time and resources on.
Commitment means building a future for a man. A good man will not do this with a woman he can’t trust to be virtuous. You sleep with him to bring him close and (very often) the exact opposite happens. Nice huh?
Quick sex is partay!! Nothing wrong with that, but it won’t get you long term commitment. Again, look into your past. It’s your choice.
Andre Paradis Project Equinox